Comments on: Why Won’t His Family Talk To Him?

By: Naomi

Naomi — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 04:58:26 +0000

Thanks for the article. I was raised a jw, baptised at 14, elder’s daughter. I disassociated 5 months ago and have not been in contact with my family or any friends since. I am very fortunate to have fantastic non-jw friends who have been my rock through it all. I have emailed my parents to let them know I am ok and that I love them, with no response. I do not expect to see them again before they die as they are getting older and are quite sick from time to time. It is difficult but I have come to accept this and am thankful for the time I had with my father, and the friends I have to support me and act as my family now.

By: Brenda smith

Brenda smith — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:12:32 +0000

I have a question about how to react when you have a catholic raised daughter who has been turned out by her JW boyfriend and his family. She got pregnant by her bf at age 16 and now 3 years later, she is in deep with the JW’s..how is this possible? She had her son out of wedlock, she drinks alot, and is still having sex with her bf. When i question her about her ‘unholy’ like behaviour, she simply says that the brothers know she has alot of work on herself. Even near her birthday, she tells us she doesnt celebrate, but we can get her a gift and give it to her a week before or a week after…i call her and her jw religious friends a bunch of hypocrites and then she won’t speak to us for months…we are very close to losing all contact with our grandson, but i can’t take her rants about our ‘pagan’ lifestyles anymore. Any advice would be appreciated. My husband calls the JW a cult and a phase and says we should ignore it but i feel her pulling away from us more and more.

By: shantel

shantel — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 22:41:13 +0000

Today is my birthday, and for the first time in a long time I celebrate it. I was a 3rd generation JW, I have been through a lot and I have seen a lot. For years after leaving this organization I went through depression. My birthday was the worst because I simply regretted being born. The suicide attempts became more frequent as I got older and had children. I did not want to see them being brought up in this “system of things”. I am so appreciative that God spoke to me in a small still voice(God, not the governing body). I have given my life to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and I now live to make sure that my children never go through the madness I endured in that organization. For me there are no more family gatherings, no more dinners at grandmas. But on the bright side my children have goals, that they can actually visualize attaining. That wasnt an option for me. As a child writing was my gift but if you are constantly told that you are not to seek after the things of this world what do you do? The Lord has blessed me with a daughter who wants to be a surgeon, a daughter who sings gospel on a professional basis, a daughter who wants to be a entrepenuer and, a tongue talking Holy Spirit filled, Pentacostal husband. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

By: TJ

TJ — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 03:33:08 +0000

I thought I was the only one. I haven’t talked to my mother in years. I was df’d many years ago. I’ve tried to come back but just who am I supposed to talk to if I’m supposed to not associate with “worldly” people but I still can’t talk to the witnesses? I was raised in the truth and now I basically have no friends. My sister, although not baptized, can still talk to Mom and all our childhood friends yet I’m sure that she is not “living right”.

For every question that I had, Mom would say, well what does the Bible say? I never knew what *she* felt about a given situation.

My husband has said that based on the way I’m being treated by my family, he would never be a JW. I’ve found another way to express my spirituality. My husband and I vowed that we would never force a religion on our child. While I try not to speak bad about JW, it is no longer the right choice for me.

I wish all of you well in whatever spiritual path you choose.

By: DChapman

DChapman — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:43:11 +0000

Good article!

I am so grateful that YHWH, God Almighty, is more forgiving than men. When I cry out in my heart to Him, ‘I repent,’ He has taken me back again and again – daily, if necessary – until I have finally understood His wonderful and boundless love that He has for me and I also know that it is something no man (including an elder of Jehovah’s Witnesses) can ever take away from me, as only God Himself can see my heart that I have for Him, His Son, and His Word.

I believe there are many in that religion that fail to understand this…

That’s a pity. They will be judged as they have judged others.

By: annem

annem — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:33:40 +0000

Wow, great article. I was D’d when I was 17 and shunned by my parents. I remember seeing my Mom @ the grocery and she walked right past me and another time running into my parents (with a service group) at a restaurant and they didn’t even acknowledge me. I did end up going back so that they could again be a part of my life. I faded out 2 years later and it has been a good 8 years now that I have been completely inactive. My parents have come around a little since they now have grandchildren. I am lucky to have a wonderful family of my own that supports me. I burried a lot of the feelings and emotional damage from being shunned and am just starting to deal with it. I feel bad for anyone that has went through it or is going through it. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.

By: Charles

Charles — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 17:18:17 +0000

Again with something that will or might be of a good thought.

There was a single lady with 2 kids and the church put her out or what ever you call it and she remarried later on to fellow with a good mount of money. It was about 40 miles to the church and she could not aford the money to travel to and from the church. Also she did not have any money. She got throwed out for leaving her husband for beating up on her.

The fellow who she remarried to the owner the church they was lease from and when the lease come due, He doubled the Lease and told them pay it or get out. They got out but about 2 year they was back with the same fellow leasing to them for there was just not anything good enought to fit their need. he was ask several time andeven 2 other preachers in the area about it seemed too much for that lease and h e would tell them to go ask his wife why it was so high.

There is a good ideal here and that is know who owns the building your standing before you turn your back on them.

By: Charles

Charles — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 16:08:57 +0000

8I have very little to say and is just plain and simple to see and understands. When any religion stands above the family,kind folks, Religous beleif, and last and most of all judging a person to be a sinner and not be good enough to attend their church. When you take out your measuring stick and start measuring people as good enough or not to attend their church. He will take out his measuring stick and measure you. I think the LORD has spoke out on this before with those 10 thing not to do or do. You better measure well for the LORD will use that same stick on you. The last thing on this earth I would want to see is the LORD measuring me with a stick that I have measure someone else with. LORD help you or me if this took place.

By: mysticoracle

mysticoracle — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 01:08:48 +0000

I’m just reading these comments now because i’ve been D’d as i call it since 1990…when it happened I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Just freedom. Never looked back. My parents are very fanatical, particulary my mother, and they dont talk to me, but every now and then i see an email she has written to my aunt or someone else and it’s so sad to see how small her world has become – she cannot write a para without quoting some scripture. At any rate i’ve completely forgotten about the dubbs but got a shock the other day when two friends who completely shunned me and were a bit nasty with it, contacted me on facebook. I was wondering if new rules were in place or something…however I suspect it’s because they;re out too. YEAH.!!

By: Abiram

Abiram — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:14:51 +0000

Even though I have not lived a fulfilling life since leaving the Watchtower after 30 years, I have never regretted my decision. My mother still calls but cannot seem to offer any conversation beyond the tiny world of JW’s. At least she has toned down the “end is near” drumbeat. She never expected to grow old either. I never expected to be middle-aged or impoverished due to no viable skills (except door-to-door salesman; and I would rather shake hands with “Jack Ketch” than knock on another door). At times the JW’s have even employed the “Prodigal Son” parable to support shunning. It doesn’t fit.